Sunday, December 18, 2016


When I was young, my grandfather claimed to have completed his Bar Mitzvah in three, separate languages... a fact which left me thoroughly impressed. There was Hebrew, which was pretty standard fare for any Bar or Bat Mitzvah before we all went soft and let kids preform their Torah readings in English. There was German in order to incorporate the linguistic necessities of his extended family. And there was Yiddish. What I didn't realize at the time is that Yiddish is really not a language in and of itself but a more colloquial form of speaking that basically utilizes aspects of both German and Hebrew. Of course, once I found this out, I felt a bit cheated out of my earlier amazement. But, to his credit, my grandfather was a great Yiddish speaker. We didn't have dirt on our faces when we came in from playing, we had schmutz. We were never acting crazy as kids, we were acting mshuge (pronounced: meh-shug like the Suge in Suge Knight). And as I grew older, I came to enjoy my grandfather's use of Yiddish as both a cultural and endearing act. One such word used by both my grandfather and the general population is putz. As a noun, a putz is someone who is rather clumsy but act of putz-ing means something a bit different. To putz, as we all know, is to putter, tinker or do something of little consequence that occupies our time and generally brings us enjoyment. However, as the long winter months approach us, I've found, ironically, that putzing with our routines can lead to big changes... particularly when the cold weather leads to bad habits...

We all putz from time to time, engaging in small tasks to occupy ourselves either as a distraction or form of relaxation but putzing with our bad habits, particularly during the winter months, can be something necessary for good health and a sense of well-being. Because... it's easy to eat poorly in the U.S. but especially so in winter. Whether it be holiday parties or a simple fire that roars in our stomachs during the colder months, it's easy to go down a path that makes us feel shitty if we're not careful. This is not to say excess doesn't have its place. Indeed, a little holiday cheer is needed but I find my body sometimes yearns to get back on track and not fed fudge for eighteen hours straight. So, herein lies a few tricks I've picked up to restabilize my body (and mind) when needed. Think of them as Christmas gifts to yourself and, enjoy!

Bone Broth: Within the past year, bone broth made a pronounced appearance on the "foodie" radar. Publicized last year for its healing effects on the gut and delivery of collagen to our skin, bone broth recipes were touted on distinguished sources from Hemsley + Hemsley to The Splendid Table. But I didn't come around to the idea of bone broth until I thought it could be used as a remedy for my dry skin.

Thanks to family, I have a severe bout of dry skin in the winter. Cracked hands, heels and lips make for a relatively uncomfortable season although excessive sweating and oil in the summer never really make it to be a good time to be in my own skin. ;) However, after doing a bit of analysis on my diet, I thought (like cancer) genetics might not be the entire culprit and that I could do more on my own to resolve my issue.

As I learned and touted in Candid-dida, food plays a large role in how we feel and to some extent, as I noticed my mood swings and anxiety decrease in proportion to my sugar intake, I began to think (in a novel stroke of genius) that such sugars didn't provide adequate moisture or essential oils in my body's system to keep me going through the winter months. What was missing from my diet, I noticed, was meats and good fats that could do the trick of keeping my body warm and comfortable on a cold day. So, after coming across a delicious broth recipe made with beef bones (used as a base for pho in this circumstance), I've started making a (crock)pot of broth each week, throwing everything from veggies and beans to airline peanuts in the soup when needed. To make, simply follow the "broth" portion of the recipe in the link above.

Even Venetians "mask" in winter.

Masking: Sometimes, doing something uber-luxurious (if not cheap) can help to pull our routines out of a rut and onto a more stable course (hey, there's a reason why masked events like Carnivale and Mardi Gras fall in winter, right?). Within the season, facial masks are a great way to over compensate for the lethargy that can befall a beauty routine when we'd rather spend our extra minutes in bed, And masks can be a fun thing to experiment with given our variety of skin types and needs of the season. If you do in fact want to go uber-luxurious (and ceremonial) May Lindstrom makes a well-regarded mask entitled "The Problem Solver" and also sells a Facial Treatment Brush and Masque Treatment Bowl for "superior" application. However, if you're like me, you might want to put a less expensive mask in the (reusable) bowl and apply it with the (reusable) brush 'cause eff expensive things that run out. In winter, Greek-yogurt can serve as a great hydrating mask in a pinch but, if you're looking for something a little more "middle-of-the-road" Into the Gloss has developed a comprehensive, hydrating list here.

"Spring" Clean By Candlelight: If bone broth was all the rage in 2016, the Danish idea of Hygge seems to be trending for the subsequent year. Defined as a somewhat intangible form of coziness, methods for generating hygge have been developed in Nordic countries for decades (i.e. "when it's cold out, stay indoors and light a fire" according to the Financial Times). However, as I can be a bit of a putz and don't like to generally be around fires I'm responsible for, I find cleaning provides a subtle coziness even if only serving as a way to rest the eyes from clutter.

Fireplaces and candles are good "hygge helpers."

We spend more time indoors in winter so why no make the area as hospitable as possible? For me, cleaning presents a "double-whammy" of both comfort and accomplishment. Having cleaned my bathroom for the first time since 2011 (yup), I noticed how comfortable I felt being in the space and how I looked forward to winding down in the evening with a warm shower and, of course, facial mask. Also, while winter ruts can happen, cleaning even the smallest of spaces presents us with a feeling of accomplishment which can boost our moods and confidence. And if you choose to clean by candlelight to generate some hygge, all the better. According to the Financial Times, hygge, at its core, is a set of common sense practices for the colder months. When it's cold, light a fire and to keep yourself from cabin fever... clean your cabin. 😉

Help Out: No matter which season of the year we experience, helping out is a universal ticket to feeling better. And while we may experience our individual ruts, helping to pull someone out of his or her's almost always balances the scale so that both parties land on higher ground. As the old saying goes, "a candle does not lose its flame by lighting another candle." It only generates more hygge. 😉

Recently, I came across an article on the capture of Anne Frank (the Anne Frank House does not think her family's discovery was due to a hard-and-fast betrayal as otherwise thought) and was hit square in the face with the notion that, we do live in a time when we can do things to make life better for others. For me, I've been trying to think of ways to help those in Aleppo and it's difficult when issues seem bigger than your small world but, as it turned out, there was a small fundraiser for Aleppo at a burger joint by me. Like cleaning and/or putzing acts of help can be small but have profound effects.

So there you have it, a few ways to putz around with your routine to make winter a happier, healthier time for all. Happy Holidays. Happy hygge. Happy happy.

Monday, December 5, 2016

Eastern Athletics

As cool as Parkour sounds in its actual name, it sounds equally as stupid once you learn what it is. A quick search for its "concrete" definition and description of acolytes proves that Parkour, otherwise know as, "a quasi-commando series of leaps, vaults, rolls, and landings designed to help a person avoid whatever lies in his path," (according to the New Yorker) is essentially asinine. For one, you're essentially unable to preform Parkour tricks beyond an urban setting... where natural obstacles are few and far between. And even within the urban setting (read: Denver) the most dedicated of Parkour devotees will still admit that the practice is not exactly applicable to real world situations. And yet, this shouldn't be surprising. In modern times, most of us relegate our workout times to isolated areas and spaces: an hour at the gym, a two-hour spin class, etc. Indeed, we've even separated the act of athletics as something done outside the scope of our regular activities. But perhaps, while Parkour offers some glimpse of athletic applicability within our day-to-day tasks (sure, we can jump over that desk as opposed to walking around it) we often (I'm assuming) perform our isolated athletics because of how they make us feel once we leave their given space. Whether the benefits be physical or mental, athletics can and should leave us with a feeling and knowledge that go beyond our stringent routines.

Run for fun? 

When I was younger, but old enough that my brothers were able to take care of themselves, I used to love going to lunch with my parents. I think that on some primal level it reminded me of a time when it was just the three of us. Of course, a similar variation would unfold over the course of my youth where I would attend lunch with either my mother or father alone. On sunny days, my mother and I would sit on the patio of T.G.I. Friday's and I would think I had literally died and gone to heaven. The variation with my father however, was a bit more pressed for conversation. Having found interest in Eastern Religion, I really couldn't keep up with the conversation and the few times I did try move the dialogue along, asking my father how long he and his fellow Buddhists "sat around" for during their retreats, I was promptly rebuked with the response, "we're not just sitting around, Elissa." Henceforth, I more or less shut down, refusing to ask my father questions about his practice until around high school.

In high school, I often saw my father go into the guestroom for an hour to meditate, at which point we had to tone down the volume of our own activities within the house. After an hour or so had passed and my father emerged, I was always happy to see he had completed what seemed to me as a thoroughly boring endeavor but was also left curious as to how something that still seemed like "sitting around" would change the world as my father claimed meditation could. When I worked up the courage to inquire on behalf of my curiosity, my father claimed that, "the goal of meditation is to bring your experiences beyond the room." While I still haven't fallen for Easter Religion, I've found myself becoming more and more involved in Eastern ideas through yoga. And as I've advanced in my practice, I too have come to see that the goal of the movements done in class is to carry their benefits into one's daily life and routine.

As I've developed in my yoga practice, I've found that most issues with tension can stem from certain "hubs" in our bodies or places where many muscle fibers connect (mainly the hips, shoulders and jaw). And once these areas are loosened, our bodies feel exponentially better both in and outside of the studio. It's as if stretching these regions can lead to a sum greater than our individual, bodily parts. Below, I've included a few stretches or ideas which can loosen such areas as well as ways to "check in" with them in the real world. Enjoy!

 Eagle Pose

Hips (and shoulders): In general, our bodies are as unique as our personal experiences. But, despite this fact, most of us suffer time to time with tenseness in our hips... particularly if you are of the female variety. In my case, a pair of flat feet often lead me to consistently turn out my hips, perhaps so that not all my body weight falls inward like a house imploding (see Life as a House). But for other women (and men), hips are where one stores a lot of tension, particularly if there are memories which have been repressed. And while our emotional states may take more than yoga to heal (although it's a somewhat effective remedy) we can begin to loosen our hips with a few postures from the Bikram series. Below (and above) is one I find relatively effective... if not painful. Enjoy! 

Letting someone else explain Eagle Pose 'cause, "a'int no one got time for that."

Jaw: In general, the jaw and hips (or at least the tensions that reside in both) are related. As they tell us in yoga, tension in the hips generally equates to tension in the jaw. What they also say is that, "the difference between an advanced yogi and a beginner, lies in the face." This is to say that while an advanced yogi may give no clues as to their internal struggles on the mat, I'm constantly being told to relax my face in class. When we have tension, it can manifest in the hips as well as the jaw and while there's no specific posture in yoga which alleviates jaw pain or tension, there are several exercises (featured in Shape Magazine) that can help in this predicament.

Open Wide: According to Shape, several exercises exist which can relax the muscles surrounding the jaw (if not the jaw itself). The first begins with opening one's jaw as wide as possible and then allowing it to relax. Like the isometric stretches done in yoga (which requires one to utilize muscle tension as opposed to motion) stretching the muscles and then allowing for a release eventually leads to relaxation. Try doing a wall squat and you'll get the general idea.

Squats, squats, squats, squats, squats

Savasana: When I said there's no yoga pose to accommodate relaxation in the jaw, I lied. While it doesn't necessarily correspond to the jaw specifically, savasana or "dead body pose" allows for an attempt at total relaxation. Savasana, albeit "easy" on the surface, is known as both the most difficult and most important posture in the Bikram series. Laying flat on the back, one is supposed to relax with their heels touching and feet splayed to the side. The palms also face up and arms remain by one's side. While the general idea of a body scan has always intimidated me (are my arms relaxed?) Savasana provides one with a point of reference (the floor) in which one can measure their relaxation. Upon arriving to yoga early the other day, I coincidentally remained in savasana for around fifteen minutes before class (within class, one remains in savasana for about two minutes at most). As you may have guessed, a few interesting things happened.

-Your hips have no choice but to relax: In Letting Go, I spoke about how relaxation can often be a challenging process both mentally and physically. However, when laying against the floor for fifteen minutes, you have the force of gravity on your (back) side which really gives us no choice in the matter. As with many things relaxation, I've found, is a decision, but sometimes, it's nice to let something "greater" take the wheel and do it for us. This doesn't mean it's not painful (your hips will hurt) it just means it's easier.

-Your sinus might clear: Laying on your back against a hard surface for fifteen minutes, I realized, can do great things for the sinuses. Since I've been having a bout of stuffiness due to consistent food allergies, laying back and motionless helped drain anything from my sinus region into my throat in a process that was not elegant but which allowed for expulsion.

Dead Body Pose... and appropriate name for savasana conducted at 8 p.m.

Shoulders: I'm sure many of us have tension in our hips. I'm sure many of us have tension in our jaws. But I'm willing to bet almost all of us have tension in our shoulders. As I joked to my fiancee the other day, I read in a meme that tension in the upper back means one feels unloved. It may be true but, in general, our daily activities... typing, driving, etc. can create tension in our back and if a prolonged savasana provides a way to effortlessly release tension in our hips, a massage can provide both an effortless and painless way to release tension in the shoulders.

In Health Before Beauty, I spoke about the high price of spa treatments. But while you might not find a house-maid with a gluten intolerance as the saying goes, you'll almost always find one who needs a massage... which means it's something that can benefit all of us. So, luckily, a massage is something we can give ourselves, give our loved one or get for around $15 at the mall kiosk. But if you're really content on loosening your shoulders through stretching eagle pose is often an effective remedy as well as "checking in" with your shoulders at a few points throughout the day.

-driving: Just as there are certain points of out body which hold tension, there are certain points in our day which serve as beneficial times to "check in" with our bad selves. One point for me is when I'm driving. I'm unsure whether it's the position of the steering wheel or the subconscious awareness that I'm operating a two-ton vehicle but the process of driving, I've noticed, puts my shoulders on edge. As I'm driving, obviously, I'm not engaging in stretching exercises however, I've found that bringing a simple awareness to the fact my shoulders are tense, ironically, begins to loosen them. It also helps me keep an eye out for any tenseness the next time I drive.

-sitting: It's ironic that sitting qualifies as a relaxing activity. It's inverse: "standing on one's feet all day" seems to be the pinnacle of discomfort in our culture. But sitting can perhaps make us lazy because, when I sit, I slouch. Again, it's not about judgement, simply bringing an awareness to our posture helps us correct it if needed... an activity I seem to spend most of my time doing.

So where does this leave us? As I've found, checking in with our bodies throughout the day and making an attempt to relax them makes yoga a bit easier. And while this experience may be personal, it can be beneficial whether you're a yoga practitioner, runner or binge-watcher. As science shows, increased relaxation carries the benefits of protecting one's heart, boosting immunity and/or lowering the chance of stroke (according to The Huffington Post). But beyond that, I think, it helps us work towards something greater. And as Fredrich Nietzsche once claimed, "he who has a why... can bear almost any how." Which is to say, checking in with our bodies gives us a sort of purpose... to make yoga easier. ;)